Staying True

happyone  6 months 2 weeks ago
we must listen to our inner voice and sixth sense that helps keep true to ourselves x
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PhoenixButterfly  8 months 2 weeks ago
Before posting my question/thought I wanted to quickly scan the previous posts just to see if anyone had come anywhere near it before. Sure enough there was Ay.Oh
I spent 13 years and had 3 children with a man who was emotional abusive to me (it ended when he descended too far into mental illness with lots of psychosis). Before my relationship with him I was raised in a military family so things were strict (I always dreaded disappointing my Dad). And before all that the first 2 years of my life were in what was rumoured to be an abusive house.
So deep within me is someone who just wants to please. I want to be me, the true me but I dread disappointing, angering or alienating anyone. Sometimes I wonder if I even know who the real me is. I am now in a healthy relationship and I'd say at least 80% of the time the thoughts, actions and words that come from me feel right, like this is the way I'm supposed to be. My current partner wants nothing less than for me to be myself (nothing would bother him more than if I tried just to please him or anyone else but me) After so long of my life being someone for everyone else I still catch myself wondering if so and so would be "okay" with something I'm about to say or do.
So how do you find the true you when you're not really sure how to find out who that is?
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ib-creative360  11 months, 1 week ago
For all to enjoy and share - I 'happened' across this write up on intention and going with the flow and mindful living ... it's truly wonderful ... enjoy >> http://www.reneetrudeau.com/htmlemail/LifeBalanceNewsJune2011.html
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Ay.Oh  11 months 2 weeks ago
"I decided years ago to stick to my true self ..... some can take it - some can not, but the peace of mind it gives me is ... priceless " - ib-creative360

In response to this, first: Thank You, for saying it. Secondly, this happens to have been a struggle of mine that more clearly came to light when I started dating a certain person. Everything, I thought I liked and was comfortable with myself about became an insecurity -- where I grew up (Orange County), how I spoke, what I liked -- all of it. Over the past year, well, the last few months of the past year I have come to realize that I wasn't as grounded within myself as I would have liked to believe, so now I'm at the point wondering whether I get rid of him or just accept myself for who I am and let nature take it's course... If he leaves, so be it... It has been such an inner struggle, seriously. I just want my peace back. It's frustrating to be incompatible with someone you hoped to be compatible with. But I've altered almost everything I could, on the inside, for him and I STILL have NO peace. Le sigh. Wow, tht was refreshing, maybe I just needed t say it. :)
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ib-creative360  11 months 2 weeks ago
I got this video from a friend and find it simply amazing... this could also help in staying true to yourself ... not sure if you have heard of Dr. Emotos research on water emotions crystals... I suggest to watch it to the end... you could make your own 'stay-true' spray bottle lol :) http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=lhpJ1t8z4rU&feature=related
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Derbyman32  11 months 2 weeks ago
I am staying true but yesterday I ran into a block. I think it was probably information overload, I was reading a lot and some of the information began to confuse and cloud me over. For that night my clarity and presence were not where I had previously been. Does anyone have advice for how to manage that. This morning I felt back on track but it took a lot of mediation to get back on track. I guess that could be a common problem but I hated my confusion and lost of direction even though it was only temporary it was not fun.
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ib-creative360  11 months 2 weeks ago
:) cheers, I decided years ago to stick to my true self ..... some can take it - some can not, but the peace of mind it gives me is ... priceless :) carpe diem!!
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R.p.  11 months 2 weeks ago
I will do that. I will also think about self trust.
I really don't think I lie at all, even " white". Wellllll.....depends on the crowd lol. It will be interesting.
Cheers Lady
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ib-creative360  11 months 2 weeks ago
We all have our 'own truths' - but I stick to what I said before, a 'white lie' is still a lie, and that causes a negative reaction (on a subtle level maybe, but nevertheless) (Maybe not for an axe murdered) but for someone with average morals and ethics ...

And that poses the question - how much do you trust yourself ... hmmm

A little 'experiment' for you guys.... (I did it myself, and what a reality check it was).... try to count the white-lies you (possibly) say for 1-2 days and see how much (or what) you come up with ... then ask yourself with how many would it not have mattered either way to just state the truth ... and why haven't you .....it was an interesting experience, good focus on truth and your perception of it.
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R.p.  11 months 2 weeks ago
Thinking about it. For me, sometimes, being authentic means accepting the little lies. In my reality that is part of the challenge.
There is only so much of myself I want to crack open. Some of it needs to nestle, and that is the core of me. That untouchable Id like place. Nobody wants to see my idishness. Still though I accept my inner savage....and so sometimes have to accept it's lies.
Of course it bubbles up....and I deal with it one bubble at a time (one circle, as it were).
I mean if the truth of authenticity for someone is to be an axe murderer....they might want to lie about it.
Not saying this is my truth.....OR MAYBEEEE???HAHAHAHAHA. Jk.
There will always be an ideal self hanging like a damning carrot.....but the true self is much more fluid than either option.
Do I make sense to you?
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ib-creative360  11 months 2 weeks ago
Authenticity - I know from experience - comes with taking self-responsibility first and foremost when sticking to your ethos... and finding a positive way to assert your needs and being/living the real you. That is not always easy.
When I had this 'breakthrough' many years ago - it was astounding how many of my 'so called' circle of friends simply dropped off when I got on the path of truly living my authentic life and walking-my-talk (pardon the clichee) ... but new, more positive and inspiring, like-minded people came in to fill these gaps almost instantly ... this is what kept me going... when I should be endangered to falter, I just have to think back of how 'unwell' and 'out of sorts' I felt ... and if you are brave to stop all those little lies, life becomes a lot more simple ... Good luck to all here and BE THE BEST YOU CAN BE :)
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Derbyman32  11 months 2 weeks ago
The perfect group for the now living from my awakening. I am happy to be led here. I was not socially active before because I had nothing to say in my mind... that was the key to get out of my head. Living now and loving it
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R.p.  11 months 2 weeks ago
I find that living authentically means that I almost have to abandon thought entirely. I have to connect not only to my heart, but my heart needs to spill out and connect with everything else, only then can I feel grounded enough to be....BE....in the authentic moment. I often imagine the connection as waves of light filling the space around me (tmi?)... The waves coming from my 'self'.
However. I am not very smart. I now have a process to be authentic but what now? Nothing I guess but practicing and learning about myself. Sit back and enjoy? I guess.

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1Life2Live  11 months 3 weeks ago
I found this video and found it tremendously inspiring. In it, he says, "I want the world to be better because I was here." If only we could all live by this motto!

Link to video: What Is Greatness
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Lobella  11 months 3 weeks ago
Today I am committed to staying true to myself by really listening to my heart and get my head out of the way! I agree, sometimes it really is hard sometimes to stay true to ourselves if we are not filliing ourselves up first. Prayer for a few minutes in the morning has been my focus-especially recently. Have to tap back in to what matters most.
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